If you’ve lost a loved one, the festive season can feel like it’s lost its joy and meaning, becoming a particularly difficult time of year that is fraught with memories.
Christmas is meant to be a wonderful time of year, but if you’re coping with grief you may be feeling far from festive.
Whilst coping with a recent bereavement can be particularly difficult, even those that lost a loved one many years ago can find that their grief intensifies during the festive season.
Memories of past Christmases with those that have passed away can be very painful and leave you feeling little reason to celebrate.
We’ve put together a few ideas and advice about how to cope with grief over the festive season.
Only do as much as you’re comfortable with
Don’t feel pressured to do all the same things that you have in the past, or to attend big Christmas celebrations if you really don’t want to. Equally, if you still want to celebrate Christmas, don’t allow yourself to feel guilty for doing so.
Create traditions to remember your loved one at Christmas
Creating new Christmas traditions that pay tribute to the person that has passed can be a wonderful way of still including them in the holiday season. Here are a few ideas for new traditions to remember those that have passed at Christmas:
- Visit their grave and lay down flowers on a set day during the festive season each year.
- Make it a tradition to visit a place that was special to you both during the Christmas period.
- Light a candle in their memory during your Christmas dinner.
- Visit a place of worship and light a candle in their memory.
- Share favourite stories about the person with your loved ones.
It can take some of the stress out of the festive season to discuss Christmas plans with friends and family in plenty of time of the big day.
Be kind to yourself
Listen to and accept your grief as it comes, if you need to cry, allow yourself the time to cry. Don’t beat yourself up over not being in the festive spirit.
Whatever your plans for Christmas day, make sure you leave time to treat yourself, whether that’s with your favourite festive film, a packet of indulgent biscuits, or a brisk walk on Christmas morning.