Category: Preparing for Death

Families are now renting coffins for funerals amid cost of living crisis

Some funeral directors are now offering coffins for rent to cut down the costs for families.

An average funeral runs to thousands of pounds, with coffins a major contributor.

The cheapest wooden coffins on offer by Co-op funerals on their website are £450 for traditional oak, cherry or maple, while their most expensive standard coffin (white rose casket) is £2,650.

Even a cardboard coffin is priced at £450.

With many families struggling with increased costs of electricity and fuel, finding the money to pay for an expensive funeral is an added strain.

The rented coffins are used in the service and even in the burial, but are later removed with the deceased person later being cremated or laid to rest in the simple wood or cardboard liner.

US provider Everplans, which offers rented coffins, says on its website: ‘A rental casket is a casket that has a removable interior. The body is placed in a simple wooden box and the box is placed inside the casket, giving the appearance that the body is actually in the casket.

‘In fact, the body never touches the casket, and the wooden box is easily removed after the service. The body can then be buried or cremated in the simple wooden box, and the funeral home can re-use the rental casket.’

3 Reasons To Choose Your Own Headstone

Choosing our own headstone is not something most of us think about or even care about but there are lots of advantages to choosing how you would like to be remembered after death rather than leave it up to relatives. With this in mind here are three of the main reasons why you should consider choosing your own headstone.

Leaving it up to relatives can place an additional burden
Relatives and loved ones will often be so caught up in the funeral arrangements they will sometimes forget about details such as headstones. Even when they do remember, they may not provide the kind of memorial you would have chosen to be remembered by. It’s far better to ease their burden and take away some of the hard work of coming up with fitting verses, choosing designs and so on.

There can be disagreements over what the deceased would have wanted
Like anything else in life, people will tend to choose things based on their own taste so there can be family disagreements over what’s best. Choosing your own grave stone or memorial will ensure this doesn’t happen.

You can ease the financial burden
Saving up for your own funeral much like choosing your own gravestone is not something you are likely to be thinking about now. However, funerals are expensive and the cost is rising well above inflation. At least when you choose your gravestone, you will be able to gain an idea of what it will cost and prepare accordingly for when the end comes. Most of us would like to have at least some kind of memorial for people to remember us by.

How Books Can Help Children Cope With Death

Death is a taboo subject. Something most people don’t talk to young children about unless they ask. Even then it can be difficult to explain when young minds think that life is eternal.

Sometimes though death can be all too real when there is a death of a family member. Then it is often the job of parents to try to explain that our time on this earth is limited. However there is no easy way to put this into words without upsetting young children or giving them nightmares.

One way to help children understand is to use books specially written for children which deal with the subject. There are many to choose from dealing with different aspects of death from terminal illness to what happens after we die.

One interesting book on the subject of death is a German book called Duck, Death and The Tulip. The intriguing title introduces the two main characters, death in the form of a figure with a skull wearing a tartan coat and a duck, who realises that the figure is always following her around.

Familiarity between the duck and death leads to a kind of friendship which makes death seem threatening and more a part of life. The moment when the duck eventually passes away is peaceful and eases some of the shock and grief we all experience when someone dies.
Viewing death as a companion somehow makes the prospect of dying a bit less frightening.

Telling Children

The death of a loved one is an incredibly difficult time for friends and family. Compounding your own feelings of loss may include how to explain to a child that someone close to you has died. Parents in particular instinctively want to protect their child from pain or fear. So we often try to sugar-coat the concept of death by saying the person is ‘asleep’ or they have ‘gone away’ but this may only further confuse the child. As difficult as it may seem, it is important to provide your child with information and explanations they need to help them understand the process.

Children are incredibly resilient, at time adults don’t give them enough credit for their ability to adapt to new sets of circumstances or understand the complexities of life. By explaining things as accurately as possible, you may be preparing your child to not fear death. Of course, each particular situation is different and there care certainly instances where you may want to withhold certain graphic information if there has been a terrible accident or a criminal act has been perpetrated. But as we have been taught from a very young age ourselves, honesty is the best policy.

Here are a few suggestions for getting through this difficult situation:

• Tell children as soon as possible. Avoiding the conversation will not make it any easier, in fact it might make it more stressful
• Have someone with you to help support you and answer questions your child may have
• Find a quiet, tranquil place to tell them
• Be close to the child. They may need a hug
• Use simple words appropriate for the child’s age. Remember to use actual words like ‘death’ or ‘died’ as synonyms may get lost on the child

If you have deceased loved ones, you may want to bring the child along to the cemetery so they can understand it is a beautiful, peaceful place and not somewhere to be frightened of. Show them the memorial that has been erected and read any loving words or thoughts that have been inscribed so they see that people remember the departed fondly and with love.
At Buckley Memorial we understand what families go through in these difficult times. We are here to help make the process an easier one.

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